Hey busy momma,
I see you.
I see you trying to keep everything together. I see that you are balancing a bazillion things while also trying to find a few moments each week to catch your breath and check in with yourself before you ‘lose it’.
Kids are crazy, work has deadlines, your body may be giving you health drama, and you are just tired.
Oh so tired.
Like the kind of tired that no one else but another momma can understand. And even then you wonder if she really understands all that you are holding together.
Does she really understand the dynamics between your kids? Does she know that you haven’t slept through the night in months? Does she know your son/daughter is struggling and you don’t know how to help them? And if she did know, would she try to understand or just tell you the list of things you can do to try and fix it all? So much you are processing.
And you hate that you are so ready to lose it.
You don’t want to be the ‘crazy mom’.
The mom who yells more than you want to admit. The momma who just can’t seem to get a step ahead of the constant changing developmental/hormonal patterns of your kids or the laundry or the bills or the never-ending homework.
Oh, and date night? What’s that again?
I see you. I see that you are doing the best you can. I see that you are working so hard. I see that you are emotionally spent. I see that at times you are at 100% loss as to how to parent through these difficult stages our kids go through.
You are not alone.
I see you.
I don’t have solutions or quick fixes to offer you. Life is a continuum of seasons that ebb and flow. Some seasons feeling like we can take on the world and some leaving us feeling like we are barely hanging on.
So while I can’t fix what’s happening. I can offer you hope that I try and hold onto. (I’d text you the number of my 2 friends that get an earful every other day or so, but I don’t think they’d appreciate it. But you need those kinds of women. When you find them, make it work even though you will see certain things differently. We need a village.)
So for now, a thought…
All we truly have is the hope/energy/strength to live inside the grace that has been given for just today.
When our friend Paul Young came and spoke at our church this was my biggest ‘ah ha’ moment and take away. You see, I’m great at living in the ‘what if’s’ of tomorrow. I can list a 100 things right now that can go wrong, and the 5 plans I’ve devised to deal with it all. (Also an Enneagram 6 talking there.)
But that is not helping me today. Or even tomorrow.
Most often when we start to stress about the future, or as he called it “Future Tripping”, it’s over things we have no control. Or things that we don’t know will really happen. And it takes our energy from the present. And the present is all we truly have.
All we have is what is right in front of us.
Living in the future of how everything will work out is exhausting. So let’s try and stop.
Let’s accept the grace that God has given for us in THIS DAY.
Let us ask, “God, please give us today our daily bread”.
God's grace is sufficient for all our needs. And I often find as I open myself up to receive that grace, I’m surprised at how I am taken care of.
Whether it’s a friend stopping by offering to take a kid on a playdate.
Whether it’s the hubby getting an unexpected side gig.
Sometimes it’s just seeing the situation for what it is in the moment without the fear or projection of what I think it means for the future. (Like your kids are fighting and next thing you know you’ve packed your bags to visit them in jail and know they will hate each other forever and on and on…)
Maybe it’s a moment hiding in the bathroom taking a second to do a quick breathing exercise.
There are so many ways grace can come to us if we make ourselves present to receive it.
This also helps us to see the story in the moment and not begin to create a belief around how things are going to be which will affect how we do life today. And it gives us space to accept the gift of grace that is only here for today.
Tomorrow’s grace will come, tomorrow.
Be encouraged sweet momma, you’re going to make it through this season. Maybe with a few bumps and bruises. But most definatently with the grace that is made available to us today.
I see you.
You are not alone.